Be Selfish… Do it for THEM

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As women we have a tendency to put ourselves last, to take care of everyone else first, and to give and give and give. But that’s NOT what’s right for us or for our families. Yes, you read that right: you’re refusing to be selfish, and it may be negatively impacting the people who rely on you.

Decide to put yourself first. It will help you take care of everyone else.

Not convinced? Here are a few things to think about.

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If you didn’t have headaches every day after work, how would you relate differently to your children? How would that change the quality of the memories you create together? How would they look back on their childhood differently?

Enjoy more romance when you have less pain.

If you didn’t have that nagging back pain, how would you relate to your life partner differently? Would you have a deeper and more intimate relationship? How would that affect your marriage?



If you weren’t distracted by lack of sleep or pain, how would you relate to your coworkers? Would you be more productive at work? What would that mean for your income and your potential growth within the team?

Your relationship with yourself and your body affects everyone around you at work, at play, and at home.

It can be difficult to start putting yourself first. Here are some simple questions you can ask yourself to determine what to focus on changing, adding, or subtracting. Take one baby step at a time.

1) Do you believe that eating a healthy diet gives you more energy and keeps you healthier overall? On a scale of 1-10 (1 being poorly, 10 being awesomely) rate your current eating habits. What is stopping you from eating better? If you could change one thing to help yourself eat better, what would it be? What’s stopping you from doing that? How much water are you drinking? Is it enough? What could you do to remind yourself to drink more pure water?

2) On the same 1-10 scale rate your current activity and exercise level. If you’re already doing some activity, what can you do to make it more efficient? How can you add additional activity? If you’re doing none, why not? Make a list of ten reasons why being more active would help you perform at work. Now make a list of ten reasons why it would help your children (and make sure setting a good example is on that list as well as preventing heart disease so you can live longer and be around longer for them!). Finally make a list of ten things you would love to do if you had the time, energy, and fitness level. (Hey, in Sarasota you can do everything from aerial yoga to parkour to paddle boarding to horseback riding!) Would you enjoy doing those things with friends and family?

3) Now consider your sleeping habits. How many hours of good sleep are you getting? Do you wake up feeling rested? What are some things stopping you from getting enough sleep? What is one thing you could change to get better sleep? Have you considered getting a better pillow? Is it better to spend that 7-8 hours a night destroying your cervical spine or would it be better to spend that time improving your health and regenerating your body?

4) Are you tired of being in pain? What kind of pain do you have? What is it keeping you from doing? What have you given up because of your pain? If you do nothing about your aches, what will the consequence be? How would your life be different if you had NO pain? Do you believe your family and friends WANT you to be in pain? Or would they prefer you live comfortably and enjoy your body?

Hopefully these questions have given you some ideas of where to start. Your next step should be to call me for a free 15-minute phone consultation to find out how my services could help you live with a higher quality of life. Please “like” my Facebook page to get updates to future blog posts.

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